We hear so much these days about the importance of maintaining a “good attitude”. Our parents say it, our teachers say it, our bosses say it, our pastors say it, our coaches say it, and every single motivational speaker says it. “You must maintain a healthy positive attitude to be happy and successful in life”.
It’s easy to say, but what the heck does that really mean, and how do you really do it?
I think we would all say that one of the biggest signs of a good attitude is seen in how we act and feel toward the others in our life. But are you that wonderful, joyful, successful, and loving person you want to be, or is what you project to the world, if not a bad attitude, a pretend attitude? Are you pretending to be happy and positive, when deep inside you are a little sad and fearful?
The truth is that all of us have some sadness and fear in our lives, don’t we. There are losses we experience, big and small, and there are unknowns we all must deal with.
The key to maintaining a positive and healthy attitude is not that we never acknowledge sadness or fear in our lives. That’s because it is actually in recognizing and owning our feelings of sadness and fear, that we can work through them to maintain healthy positive attitudes. It is not instantaneous and it is not always easy, but in the end it is real and authentic.
When we can own our feelings and develop a daily habit of focusing on what we are grateful for, we will find that an authentic positive attitude is there waiting for us. We can then write our own brave new ending, and truly say that the best is yet to come!